Area of interests include:

  • marriage counseling
  • EMDR treatment for trauma
  • self harm
  • teen anxiety and depression
  • family therapy

Chara Whiting, LMFT

Have you had a history of bad relationships, and you want something better? Do you see traces of old relationships in your partner, but it’s not really them, but you can’t work through it by yourself? You want a lifetime of love, support, and companionship, but you don’t know how to get there. I want to help you learn how to heal the emotional wounds in your relationship, and re-establish a strong emotional connection with each other.

Perhaps you have a family with adolescents who are working through anxiety and depression. It seems like everybody is reactive to each other. They are on different wave lengths. You want them to connect, but you don’t really know how to make that happen. You don’t seem to be able to get there. How to do this?

I have studied long-term marriage, healthy families, father involvement, and the power of resilience. I have special training in EMDR (which is a powerful evidence-based trauma treatment), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and many systems-based models of therapy.

If you have experienced trauma, I want to work with you. Maybe things have been hard for you for a long time. You recognize that you have trauma in your life. You realize that trauma has cast a shadow on you. You are feeling like you are ready to work with this, and you are willing to work on your stuff. But … you probably see that you need some help. Maybe you can see yourself starting to make shifts. You may be able to begin seeing things in a new way.

It’s possible that you have had highly negative relationships with one or both of your parents. There may have been times when you were feeling stuck in a pattern of pulling away from your parents, or from your partner … or picking a fight with them. Sometimes it feels like being out of sync with your mom. Maybe you have never felt safe with men. Perhaps you never knew how to relate with men in a normal way. When

you look back, you might realize that you have a pattern of bouncing in and out of relationships. Or perhaps you realize that you feel emotionally unsafe in close relationships. I will enjoy helping you figure out how your family system can maintain problems in family members. On the other hand, families can contribute to healthy growth and change, by understanding family roles, learning better communication skills, and improving how we attach and connect with each other.

Trauma often creates negative interaction patterns that the world calls “personality disorders”. Together we can “unpack” a lot of that. You can start to understand why things have developed the way they have. You can learn how to create healthy, long-lasting, safe relationships.

The best thing is helping individuals like you, and couples and families from all walks of life, make the changes that help them have the relationships you desire.

In the state of Texas I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Associate. (LMFT-A 202385)

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